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Divergent? Assailant?
Oct. 7th, 2016 12:38 pmAll those discussions around rights have nothing to do with perception.
It's just that every person evolves with the interiorated perception that there are 2 kinds of people:
Caring person - that is born into this world to take care of itself and everybody, that pays attention to others' emotions and wellbeing, finds great pleasure in helping and grooming weak and little, beautifying and ordering space around and themselves.
Achieving person - that is born to grow, learn, investigate things to their core and change the world, sometimes aggressively, impose its will on others.
This comes into all the expectations and judgments: people want their contacts - friends - bosses etc to be predictable and perceived "good" in common meaning:
Caring person is not expected to be selfish. It might, for sure, but will be punished for not willing to take care of others and being helpful with grace and without creating sense of obligation.
Caring person is expected to take good care of itself to comply with the standards of beauty, to beautify the landscape for watchers. It might not, for sure, but will be punished.
Achieving person is not expected to take much care about its appearance or space; its assumed to be not important compared to its goal to achieve. It might not really achieve, sure, and will be punished for this. But not for neglect towards appearance, food or clothes.
Since everybody knows that this is CARING PERSON'S responsibility. And achievers must have some "carers", it's their right, otherwise they won't achieve.
Since from their childhood everybody had somebody around caring for them, doing their clothes and food, cleaning the space.
Unless they've got the same short straw and were born "caring", meaning they might be assigned to care about themselves - and others - early in life.
Because from you birth day everybody knows who you ARE.
They might look at you and rightfully they say: "What do you want? You have all the rights!"
But undertone of all their thoughts - and yours! - is "But you are a Carer, don't you see?"
You are supposed to WANT to care, to be beautiful and compliant, spend all your life helping weak and little, not being selfish, and most of all - you must not want to be an Achiever, concentrate just on your goal, be ambitious, competitive and aggressive.
It's just that every person evolves with the interiorated perception that there are 2 kinds of people:
Caring person - that is born into this world to take care of itself and everybody, that pays attention to others' emotions and wellbeing, finds great pleasure in helping and grooming weak and little, beautifying and ordering space around and themselves.
Achieving person - that is born to grow, learn, investigate things to their core and change the world, sometimes aggressively, impose its will on others.
This comes into all the expectations and judgments: people want their contacts - friends - bosses etc to be predictable and perceived "good" in common meaning:
Caring person is not expected to be selfish. It might, for sure, but will be punished for not willing to take care of others and being helpful with grace and without creating sense of obligation.
Caring person is expected to take good care of itself to comply with the standards of beauty, to beautify the landscape for watchers. It might not, for sure, but will be punished.
Achieving person is not expected to take much care about its appearance or space; its assumed to be not important compared to its goal to achieve. It might not really achieve, sure, and will be punished for this. But not for neglect towards appearance, food or clothes.
Since everybody knows that this is CARING PERSON'S responsibility. And achievers must have some "carers", it's their right, otherwise they won't achieve.
Since from their childhood everybody had somebody around caring for them, doing their clothes and food, cleaning the space.
Unless they've got the same short straw and were born "caring", meaning they might be assigned to care about themselves - and others - early in life.
Because from you birth day everybody knows who you ARE.
They might look at you and rightfully they say: "What do you want? You have all the rights!"
But undertone of all their thoughts - and yours! - is "But you are a Carer, don't you see?"
You are supposed to WANT to care, to be beautiful and compliant, spend all your life helping weak and little, not being selfish, and most of all - you must not want to be an Achiever, concentrate just on your goal, be ambitious, competitive and aggressive.
